While I was writing my dissertation proposal, Mother accompanied me to Ruidoso, New Mexico for a working road trip. I wrote in the mornings while she slept in, then we’d have lunch in town and shop a little before I went back to writing. One morning we drove over to Capitan, a near-by town and ate brunch at the Hotel Lincoln, which was not a hotel at all but a restaurant. We ordered bottle water and they brought it in the tear drop shaped blue bottles from Acqua della Madonna in Italy. Mother thought they were pretty and she had never seen them before. We took them home with us, and they sat on her buffet from 1997 until 2018. I picked them up on impulse as she had gone into assisted living and we were beginning to clear out the house and I thought they would likely be thrown away.
As I said in the post after I finished “the corner”, I had a plan. I decided to use the bottles to create a “poor woman’s garden gazing ball” display. The small rounded rocks are all from the creek at the farm where Mother grew up, except for the one that is 3rd from left. That one is from Daddy’s pasture along the small creek. I picked it up on one of my trips home while out in the pasture checking the rotted fence picket in the creek bed. If you have been reading along, you already know I treasure things that are symbolic–one of my favorite theories is symbolic interaction: one of the first I learned as a social worker. So the big rock is from Papa’s farm in the creek and all the small ones form part of the boundary. Dad’s rock is symbolic of his joining Mother and her family. In systems theory, one must have boundaries, but neither too open or too rigid. Too rigid and the system cannot exchange resources and will wither and die. Too open and there is no way to screen out things that are toxic or harmful. The rocks on the other side of the bottles (aka gazing balls) are from Grandma’s place where Daddy grew up.
It is sunny and clear today, and mid-40s, so I am about to head out and see how much I can get done today. I am certain Rando will step out at some point to repeat his question of yesterday:
What in **** are you doing now? 🤣